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On the marriage scene she expresses in public he never wants him to change and his wife is just perfect. She just loves him as he is and then ask what happened with that after getting married. Try it as your own social experiment because you’re going to be surprised by the results.

Think about the number of divorces that cite not adultery as the reason but “irreconcilable differences” or “an irretrievable breakdown” as the grounds for getting the court order to issue the decree absolute and let a couple get on with their lives …separately.

Usually when a couple is considering marriage they are not thinking the similar thoughts or looking to get the same out of the arrangement.

What Women Are Feeling and Thinking Before Marriage?

After getting engaged, getting her engagement ring and then getting her man, she is thinking this is a man who will work and provide a home, a man I can have have children with and more to the point a man who she can have children with AND who will then continue to look after her and the children come what may. It’s a powerful set of mothering instincts that are working here, honed by thousands of years of social habit, so don’t blame women for viewing marriage in this way.

What Men Are Thinking For Marriage?

He is thinking in more simple terms – sex on a more regular basis, claiming a deduction on his taxes as a married man, getting his laundry done, having food prepared at hom and so on. It doesn’t impact on his mindset that actually what he is doing is entering into this contract in which she may or may not agree to do these things for him but he darn’ well better get it straight that he’s expected to deliver for her!

The standards that are being set are hers not his but at the point of sale she is not letting him know that or certainly he isn’t listening! Communication is key before marriage and asking all the right question in really getting to know your partner.

Then you have is a case miscommunication or a bad case of misspelling – your choice.

What Is A Womans Expectations For Marriage?

She has serious expectations not only for now but for the future and that means making sure she and the family are stable and secure not only today but ad infinitum. This places increasing demands on the husband to deliver the goods but his mindset is thinking about how great it would be to earn enough to pay the bills but keep his life the same as it was with a few extra benefits added such as sex and laundry.

This is a recipe for disharmony and friction; irrespective of your sex, if you purchased something that after a while no longer lives up to your expectations what do you do?

Carry on with it in a half-hearted abut disappointed fashion or trade it in for something that will get the job you see as needing to get done? Of Course you buy something else in that will do the job you need done in a way you are totally happy with!

Don’t blame women for feeling the same way and especially when they have the kids playing a major role in this kind of thinking, but, as a man or woman contemplating marriage you need to open your eyes to the reality behind the passion and declarations of devotion.

She will be looking for constant improvement and increases in security and the level of comfort he is expected to provide, whereas he is thinking hot lovin’ will always be there and he won’t have to worry about putting in too much starch when he washes his underwear.

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